tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1394475165530213404.post6382984949999893999..comments2023-10-26T00:46:29.149-07:00Comments on L O V E S H A R R E D: Jealous of John Lennon (grief @ 6 months)Sharry, Jared, & Lolahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10118594092900889019noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1394475165530213404.post-36012228391048857862016-12-21T06:50:54.843-08:002016-12-21T06:50:54.843-08:00I am one of the many many members of a healthcare ...I am one of the many many members of a healthcare team that has cared for JJ. I began reading your blog after first reading your story as we prepared to see JJ and were reviewing his medical records. Your love story inspires me. That you're grieving to the depths that you are just proves how much you truly loved each other. Thank you so much for sharing. Laralynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17180086202380345543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1394475165530213404.post-84883846374956193662016-12-19T12:06:14.357-08:002016-12-19T12:06:14.357-08:00Jared,
We continue to think about you often and ...Jared, <br /><br />We continue to think about you often and pray for you, JJ, and both your and Sharry's family every day. I am sure the holidays will be hard. Hold on extra tight to that beautiful, beautiful, beautiful baby boy (I figured you would appreciate the Lennon reference; even though you are right, George IS better) and your family and loved ones. Peace and Love. Phil Lundberg<br />Old Farts in New Delhihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03869000798023936983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1394475165530213404.post-22208471059100535192016-12-19T09:22:26.509-08:002016-12-19T09:22:26.509-08:00Thinking of you and praying that you will feel Sha...Thinking of you and praying that you will feel Sharry by your side during this difficult holiday season. Sending love, prayers and peace your way and thank you for sharing your grief journey! Keep writing- it helps and lifts all of us. ShaLyse Walkerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04319758759678839044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1394475165530213404.post-72803675975585625412016-12-18T20:18:53.353-08:002016-12-18T20:18:53.353-08:00Daniel,
Thanks for your words and prayers. I appre...Daniel,<br />Thanks for your words and prayers. I appreciate your words of faith and solidarity in anxiety and depression. Life IS tough! But it is helpful to have people with whom we can share our worries, concerns and tough times. Thank you!Sharry, Jared, & Lolahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10118594092900889019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1394475165530213404.post-33242752115040639302016-12-18T20:15:38.976-08:002016-12-18T20:15:38.976-08:00Thank you Heather. I appreciate your on going sinc...Thank you Heather. I appreciate your on going sincere words and kindnesses. And I WILL keep swimming and climbing. (o:Sharry, Jared, & Lolahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10118594092900889019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1394475165530213404.post-87310280771326080272016-12-18T13:43:16.681-08:002016-12-18T13:43:16.681-08:00Jared,
I found your blog after reading about you...Jared, <br /><br />I found your blog after reading about you and your wife in The Spectrum. I'm not married myself, and don't know even the smallest bit of what you feel, but as you approach (from what I gather from your writings) fearfully yet humbly this holiday season I just want to let you know that you're loved and people are praying for you, even though they don't even know you.<br /><br />I've had the blessing of being born with an inclination towards anxiety and depression, so I've had opportunities to face real emotional darkness for no reason at all. I can definitely feel you when you talk about how difficult nights are. There's something about nights that bring out the worst of our emotional baggage, that make them super painful. <br /><br />I have a sincere respect for you and your faith. Through all of this you still believe and talk to God, which deserves commending. You are building a foundation of faith from which your son can one day build off of, that will affect generations to come. You will leave a legacy for your posterity of the one who faced hell itself and didn't lose his faith. I know there have definitely been days in which I've felt in my own lowest times an anger at God for abandoning me, but then at the end of the day I find myself kneeling before him and saying, "though I don't have much of a reason to be talking to You, I am, and I always will be. I'm not going anywhere." God is real and He is our Father, He is involved even in those times it feels as if He is gone.<br /><br />I know as you turn to Him He will bless you to not only get through this dark season of your life but He will open up to your eyes wonderful beauties and joys. Love you man! Praying for you.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18134825025066622826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1394475165530213404.post-39397783700820493612016-12-18T11:10:25.657-08:002016-12-18T11:10:25.657-08:00Grief just flat out SUCKS. You can't escape i...Grief just flat out SUCKS. You can't escape it. It is hard work that you have to do. You have to do it for JJ. For your family, her family, your friends, students, God, and Shar. When you want to just lay down and sleep and not wake up because it is so, so painful to endure this ugly, sad grief, you can't. You have to keep climbing that mountain and suffer like no one else you know. <br /><br />Grief and loss also, as you have seen, give way to anxiety. That sucks, too. Things you never worried about or thought about can become a new fear that seems so real. I think your form of anxiety has come by way of a dream (nightmare) that you lost JJ. Waking from that dream was probably bittersweet. JJ was there. Breathing and fine. But Sharry was still gone and so you just get through another day and another night. <br /><br />Next year WILL be better. JJ will be walking and doing funnier things than he is now. He will go on your hikes with you and talk and point and amaze you with the wonder he has at what he sees. And you will laugh, then smile and then have a wave of sadness and regret and hope that sweet Shar was looking down to witness such a beautiful moment. The hurt will still be there, just not as constant and strong as it is now. And one day, you will be going along and laughing and having a great day and BAM, the hurt and grief will rise up out of nowhere and crush you again. Spring will be hard. The weather will be getting warmer and you will long for LAST spring. Last spring when Sharry's belly was big and she was singing so sweetly and life was filled with so much hope and anticipation. It will make you feel so sad and desperate to have that time back, when life was so, so good. <br /><br />You just have to keep swimming. You have to keep climbing that mountain. You have to SEE that there is a teeny tiny light waaayyyyy down that tunnel. Because one day, one day you will hurt less. It will not be so hard. <br /><br />I know I just stated the obvious and things you already know. Just try to hold on to that in the darkest moments. And enjoy that beautiful baby boy and his dynamic little smile! I still need to mail your package. <br /><br />Big hug to you...Heather-The Atlantic Househttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11244284818463791946noreply@blogger.com